Hi Friends!
This is a great question - and it's something that you probably wonder about
(I've gotten it asked a bunch through email too!)
Well, my answer to you is long overdue.
I've shared the reasons - - or actually the mind shift that I've gone through
with you casually over the last year, but here I will share with you completely.
As many of you know (except of course the new subscribers and there have been a
lot of you, I'm so glad you're here - welcome again!) I put up
www.marryblaire.com almost 4 years
ago, searching for my "One"
This is all I wanted - for my whole life... to find "HIM"
Through that website (which is now designed differently) I learned a lot of
lessons.
Mainly, to be true to myself. For years I was quiet about my desire to find
love, I didn't tell guys that I wanted to get married - because I was always
afraid that I would scare them away. I was afraid of getting hurt. I was afraid
of having a "deep talk" with a guy, cause I didn't want to rush or force things.
I was filled with a lot of anxiety trying to not mess things up.
That never worked for me and I wanted a new way of doing things. Actually, it
was more than wanting a new way of doing things - I really needed it. I was
miserable.
Surprisingly what I learned through the
www.marryblaire.com website was that when I shared my true desire with the
world - and with men. That when I was true to my heart and spoke my truth, that
instead of pushing and scaring men away - it actually drew them closer to me.
Big time!
This was a huge lesson for me and something I teach to you guys. How to have the
strength, the courage and the faith to share what's in your heart... fearlessly.
To be proud of who you are - and truly let yourself shine.
Over the last (almost) 4 years I got in several serious / marriage minded
relationships.
Met great guys
Dating great guys
And was true to my heart - -and spoke my truth in all of the relationships.
If you have been reading my blog and following my story for some time now, you
most likely know about my love relationship with "Sweet Kisses"
He was my "One". We instantly hit it off. The relationship matched on so many
levels. We had many things in common, he intrigued me, we grew together, we
moved in together...and for all intensive purposes we were married.
Yep, since Day 1, we had a deep intimate relationship - - like I would have with
my husband.
We used to call each other this and our communication was amazing.
It's been over a year that we've been broken up.
He was my "One" then, but then we grew apart.
Things happen and that's life.
You match with someone perfectly for a period of time, you grow from one
another, you support one another, you love one another...and you do that all
whole heartedly.
Did we plan to grow apart? No. Of course not.
Did it happen? Yes.
Was it upsetting? Sure, of course. You get in a routine, you get comfortable
with someone, you enjoy having someone in your life, and you love someone.
But then you move on.
To me, this is how life is.
Sure, we could have made the choice to still stay together.
We still love one another, but what changed is I fell out of love with him.
Sure, I could have made the decision to keep loving him - and I do... but I also
chose me and the dedication to my path, my journey, and the dreams I have.
To me this is more important, to stay in the flow. To keep moving, when you know
a relationship or a situation no longer works for you.
It may sound cold to you, but it really isn't.
Again, I still have love for him. He was my husband and he was my One. I'm also
very grateful for him in my life because so much good came out of our being
together.
He was on my path and we were meant to be together.
Now, this takes strength. It takes a strong connection to yourself, to honor
your path.
It takes courage. It wasn't easy saying goodbye to my best friend for almost 2
years, but again it had to be done.
There are plenty of people in this world that stay in relationships long after
"the flow" has left. Long after the relationship has served them and too long -
as they start hating one another.
We both didn't want that for one another. We honored our union, thanked the
Universe, thanked one another - and blessed one another for the next step on our
journey.
Now again I know this may be unconventional - but this is my journey. This is my
path and it's way more important to me to be true to myself and follow the flow
than to stick with something for the sake of my ego.
So now onto the question that I know is on a lot
of your minds.... "If Blaire is the Love Guru, Why Isn't She Married?"
Well, the reason for that quite simply - for right now, I don't want to be.
I'm in this stage of my life, that I've never been before that I'm having a
really fabulous time with all the love around me. I'm having fun being free. I'm
having fun flowing with life. Every day of mine is a really wonderful adventure
and I meet men (and people) everywhere I go, that help me along my way. To me
that's very fun.
I'm also at a stage of my life that I'm going through a very big transition - -
as I'm moving across the country (hint, hint... can you make a better guess as
to where I'm moving now? I will announce it in July)
This is taking a lot of energy. It's very exciting, a bit scary - - but it's
something I am doing for myself - and it's an adventure I want to take by
myself. Sure I have helpers along my way, the Universe always helps me out that
way (you too!) but it's something that I'd like to experience myself. That I can
do it. That I can move to my dream land - that I can be successful at it, and to
totally live it up.
I also want to explore my new land - and all the men I meet there.
I am learning so much about myself - - SO MUCH - and I am starting to just
realize all my gifts. (Are you aware of all your beautiful gifts that you have
to offer this world).
I am noticing how playful I am. How full of life I am. How curious about the
world I am. How adventurous I am. How flirty I am... and how much confidence I
have.
I am learning more and more to enjoy life. I have been enjoying life. Every day
I get to goof around with someone, make someone laugh, smile at a new friend,
wave to a new guy, give a compliment and make someone feel good.
I am so flirty - and it feels wonderful. I am really loving it.
I also have learned that the "gotta get married girl" (as Inside Edition titled
me) was something all that I knew growing up. It was all I saw and all I knew.
You grow up, you find your "One", you get married, have kids, join the country
club, be part of the PTA, and live happily ever after.
I realized that's not really me. Sure I do have thoughts of that...and sure I
will experience it, if I so choose too, but it's not the dream I have for life.
My dream is to travel the world. To live all over the world. To live large(r),
to grow, to explore, to be creative, to be free...and to love. To love everyone.
I used to look at love as something I only got from a mate. That it was on
limited supply - just from him. But I've learned that I get that love from
everyone. I get it from you...and I thank you for it.
I'm also really enjoying being free, flirting with lots of men, and playing with
them.
I never realized I was so carefree and free spirited, but I really am.
These have all been gifts.
I also realized that finding "the One" is no big deal. I guess it's one of those
things that you want so badly when you can't have it - but then once you get it,
it's no biggie.
Well, for me it used to be really hard to "get it right". I had a lot of
struggle and a lot of pain with finding a man and getting the relationship that
I wanted. This has all changed for me - and I'm grateful for it. So again,
if/when I decide I'd like something "serious" I know exactly how to get it.
That's what I teach you guys.
For now, playful, fun, flirty romance with lots of men is for me.
Again, this is what my soul wants right now and I'm honoring it.
The last thing I wanted to share with you guys, is a huge thing that I learned -
and that's the idea, concept - the truth - that the "One" that you are searching
for out there - - is really the you, in there. The "One" is you and I have
gratefully found her, fell in love with her, and married her. This is a
wonderful experience that I'm enjoying now.
I hope that answers your question and if not, shoot me an email or leave a
message below.
Love to you my friends!
Wishing you the best in love,
Blaire Allison
The Love Guru
FINDING LOVE
SUCCESSFULLY
"Before joining the Love Club I knew I needed to do something to change
my attitude and outlook about dating and relationships. I was a little
skeptical and thought the Club would be full of silly exercises and
psycho babble (which definitely has it's place but I wasn't looking for
it in the Love Club). It's not at all. I was pleasantly surprised to
learn that the weekly exercises aren't so much about "How to get a date"
as they are "how to lighten up, enjoy life more and be your most
positive self." I really and truly believe that this new outlook and way
of living will lead me to healthy, fun love with a special person."
"I highly recommend the Dating Boot
Camp. I joined the boot camp because I waslosing faith in
relationships and the hope of finding the one for me. After
attending the boot camp I have a fresh perspective on dating,
myself, and the power of the universe. The greatest insight I
learned is that I can manifest my own dreams/destiny. The
universe is in control and life is simpler when I “get out of my own
way.” …I am living and enjoying my
best life possible right now!"
Renee,
in her 30s, NJ
“I
really enjoyed your (Prepare Yourself for Love) CD. I completed it and am going back through it
again. What you taught me was very freeing and helpful. Thank
you!”
Erin, Age 30 , Seattle
“After a recent breakup I felt lost and unsure about everything. I was
miserable. A friend who had used some of Blaire’s other products told
me about “Embracing A Breakup". I bought it and listened right away.
I started to do the exercises and after a week or two I really
started to feel better. I recovered
from the breakup and am ready for my next relationship.I feel ready for a better relationship too.”
Kathy, 40s, Analyst, Baltimore
“Blaire, you have brought
inspiration to my life. 6 months ago I finally found the One! Thank you
for you for being you and having the courage to share your life with
others. You really don’t know how many souls you touch.”
LW, 20s, Philadelphia
"I joined the Love Club because I've always been interested in self
growth and spirituality and wanted to increase the happiness and love in
my life. I also loved the girlfriend element to the Club.
Since I've joined, positive things started happening right away.
Men, out of the blue started saying hi to me on the street and telling
me I looked good. I feel happier and more alive. And what's
great is I feel I have more control over the things that happen in my
life. Blaire gives us these wonderful tools that I can use anytime I'd like to draw good things my
way...It's great!"
Jenna, 46, Engineer, Philadelphia, PA
90+ Press Appearances Worldwide!
Success Stories
I love these audios and ebook - they're really great! I'm so
excited to feel the love! I can just feel it! I have a huge energy
rush from listening - I'm not even done with it yet, but had to email you.
I can actually visualize and feel "my" guy.
I am extremely confident I will meet my partner for life! Thank you!
Lisa D, 44, NYC
Prepare
Yourself for Love
The "Prepare Yourself for Love" CDs and
Companion Workbook Will Reveal Proven Tools and
Techniques That You Can Start Using Immediately
To Find the Man of Your Dreams!
Embracing
A Breakup
Give Your Heart a Break
from the Pain!
"Embracing A Breakup” CD and Companion eBook Will Open Your Eyes and Guide
You to Master the Powerful Tools Essential To Healing From A Breakup Faster
and Healthier and Happier
Blaire Allison
Love Expert, The Love Guru
Phone: (917) 438-7926
Email: guru@loveguru.net
www.LoveGuru.net
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